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Self Care Is Not Selfish

I’m going to start this one off with a big, important statement.

Self care is not selfish. It is necessary.


As adults, we are responsible of taking care of our own health. As parents, we also have tiny humans who we need to be there for 24/7. This is a tough gig. We burn out easily. Get overwhelmed easily. The mental load that women in particular, carry, is enormous. More than one person should, or can, deal with. This is why taking steps to prevent burnout and overwhelm is necessary and important.


It’s like they tell you on planes – Secure your own oxygen mask before helping others. Self care is taking care of yourself, so you can take care of those you love. You can be there for them, and give them what they need. It’s important to carve out time each week to nurture yourself, feed your soul, reenergise – whatever you want to call it.

And, it doesn’t have to cost money, or be extravagant. Self care looks different to everyone, and you have to do what is right for you. Some self care ideas that work for me are:

  • A long hot shower on my own
  • Going for a walk
  • Going out for a coffee on my own and just sitting and savouring it
  • Neurofeedback session
  • Counselling session
  • Book club
  • Having a manicure or a pedicure
  • Getting my hair washed and blow dried
  • Mindfulness breathing exercise
  • Play

Self care is also about asking for help when you need it. If i’m feeling particularly overwhelmed, I dump whatever I can on my husband. Ask him ton do the food shopping this week, or cook a few meals. Or, I ask my folks to take my daughter out for a few hours because I just need a break. You don’t have to, nor should you, feel like you have to do everything on your own. It’s impossible. Self care is about enforcing boundaries, and giving yourself permission. It is about making time for play. Nurturing yourself.

What are some of your self care activities?

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